Signs that I need a psychologist
An unpleasant admission, but true, is that in our country, psychotherapy, both as a process and as a mere word, is sometimes a taboo. We have it in our minds that if one of our fellow human beings feels the need to seek specialized help, they are crazy. At the very least, problematic. Which is both ugly and dangerous to believe in the sense that it may be us who need help. But we don’t understand it and we don’t realize it. Yet! The signs that I need a therapist are there. But I don’t want to see them. But they are the needs, desires, fears and concerns that have developed within us that need to be assuaged.
But what is psychotherapy? Simply put, it is the specialized help-support provided by a professional psychologist-psychotherapist to a person in need of help during a difficult period in their life. The expected outcome is a change in the individual within himself and in his life in general. However, nothing can happen if the person does not first realize that he or she needs the support and decide to do so. But when can a person tell and discern the signs that he/she needs a psychologist? That it’s time to start psychotherapy?
When should I start psychotherapy?
Usually, the signs that I need a psychologist are not easy to detect. To decide to start psychotherapy, someone either wants to talk to someone because they have no one who understands them, or they find that something is bothering them in their life and they want to improve and change it. He hasn’t realised that he is suffering from something, such as chronic anxiety, or depression. He or she cannot self-diagnose.
Therefore, if you find something familiar to you or even a match in the following lines, it would be good to try the evolutionary journey of psychotherapy.
One of the major signs that I need a therapist could be anxiety, stress that I am experiencing. The daily pressure due to events, obligations or circumstances in my life that leads me to bad, unfair and unknown to me behaviors until now.
Also, when a person cannot accomplish something on their own. He feels insecure, that he cannot succeed, he is afraid and pressured. Does not receive support from somewhere and someone, but wants to talk, to externalize what he/she is feeling and experiencing. To stop feeling trapped. When he can’t be heard and advice from friends, loved ones and family is not enough.
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In addition, if he or she finds disturbances in the quality of sleep, dietary changes, problems in functioning in everyday life, problems in establishing and managing relationships of all kinds.
Even if he is experiencing a human loss of a loved one, emotional stress, if he is experiencing conflict with family members, anxiety, depression, that he is in a rut. Then it is a good time to consult a psychologist. Psychotherapy is above all an experiential, positive experience, an evolutionary journey. Maybe at first the reason for starting it may be different than you thought, or even the same, but it will change along the way. You will discover much about yourself and others and get answers. In the end, you will improve your life.
Why should I start psychotherapy – Possible reasons
Internal pain
One of the most difficult situations that are not immediately perceived in the human psyche. When we feel pain, we feel pressure and do not externalize our feelings. Pain can come from human loss, from some personal negative development, from persistent stress. Within ourselves we experience negative emotions, they swell and so they underlie causes and problems that we do not solve. Psychotherapy is the science and the way to untie the shackles, to put it all together, to find answers and solutions. Most importantly balance within ourselves and find relief.
Relationships with parents
Είναι αρκετά τα παραδείγματα ”τραυματισμένων” σχέσεων μεταξύ παιδιών και γονέων. Τις περισσότερες φορές υποβόσκουν αιτίες που δεν γίνονται φανερές εκ πρώτης ματιάς και δημιουργούν άσχημες κι απροσδόκητες συνθήκες στον οικογενειακό ιστό. Ξεσπάσματα, έντονες κόντρες, διαμάχες, προβλήματα αποδοχής είναι κάποια από τα οικογενειακά προβλήματα που πιθανόν να αναπτυχθούν. Η ψυχοθεραπεία ”χτυπά” στη ρίζα των προβλημάτων, δίνει λύσεις, ηρεμεί και συμβάλει συνθετικά και θετικά.
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Relationships: Professional, personal, social
At the same time, opening the “fan” of problematic relationships, we find that you may be facing problems in both the professional and personal arena. Relationships with superiors, subordinates, pressure in your current job that makes it difficult for you to cope or because you want a change of it or just a change of circumstances in it, dysfunctional relationship with your partner. Through psychotherapy you will bring order to what now seems confusing and define situations and behaviours.
Sexual problems
Deriving sexual satisfaction through your relationship is a healthy request and a reasonable desire. But what happens when it doesn’t exist? How can you find a solution to a dysfunctional relationship? As taboo as this topic may be considered, don’t hesitate to bring it up in a session. Talking to your therapist may make it difficult and block you at first. Embarrassment, shyness, difficulty in admitting the problem itself may be experienced, yes. But there is no reason to feel bad or embarrassed. You can talk about it all with the specialist and get direction.
Human loss – Mourning – Separation
A situation that can “cover up” or hide many other problems, on the other hand, it can highlight others. Negative emotions, pain, guilt, denial of the condition, dysfunctional daily life are just some of them. With the right help you will be relieved, initially, the pain will go away, the landscape will clear. In doing so, you’ll make room for the solution and yourself, of course. And it goes without saying, that the problems you would like to bring to the session may not be your own, but may be reflective of you. They may relate to, for example, your parents’ divorce, or a loss that your friend is facing, but which affects you.
Personal development – Self-care
How can you gain confidence and self-esteem? Understand you better? Learn to take care of yourself? To be able to make decisions with logic and composure and have a personal and social balance? To place yourself at the centre, not ignoring that there are, however, others with whom we relate? To achieve goals, overcome difficulties and learn better about yourself and others? You can solve all these things through psychotherapy sessions.
Competences/Skills
Communication, negotiation, claiming what you deserve, how to deal with difficult circumstances and behaviours, and even so-called “difficult people” in general are challenges of everyday life. And you can overcome these too, while strengthening your own skills, through the psychological support that is ideal to receive.
Violence, Abuse, Victims, Victims
One of the most difficult situations. Often the victims of such behaviors and situations are introverted, fearful and “locked in their shells”. They need to start by seeking and finding help, to gain safety and a “shield”. A framework of care, understanding, support and trust. That will slowly unravel the tangle of their bad experiences. And only in the case of psychotherapy, by a qualified and experienced psychologist-psychotherapist can there be light in the darkness of the victim.
Irritable psyche (mental disorders)
In the case of a mental disorder, such as an eating disorder, depression, anxiety disorder, etc., the first thing to do, once we have identified the problem and are willing to find solutions, is to consult a psychologist-psychotherapist. Then, we should refer to other specialists, addressing our problem as a whole, holistically.
Remember: The signs that I need a psychologist in me are obvious. Even if I don’t admit them. What remains is for me to accept them and move on.
When not to do psychotherapy?
Psychotherapy is not a magic solution, a panacea or a solution that is implemented after a certain period of time. Even if I have identified the signs that I need a therapist, I have a path to redemption. A psychotherapist helps you find answers and direction, not offers solutions. If I understand these things, as a future therapist, I will be able to choose when to do and when not to do psychotherapy. With that said, the reasons for not starting psychotherapy are simple:
He/she is not ready, willing, settled and open to such a condition: He/she does not feel that he/she can cope, that he/she is ready to open up, to externalize thoughts, feelings. To change habits, lifestyle, mindset, to get uncomfortable and shaken. He fears that in the process he may raise resistance and not find answers in the end. He doesn’t want to leave the current condition and jump into a new one. Nor does he want to free himself to let go of the expert and open his soul. He doesn’t want, or is afraid to show his feelings to a stranger.
Even though this stranger, the specialist that is, knows that he will be careful and professional. To carry out the evolutionary and often painful, difficult and hard journey of development is difficult. The frustration he may feel, the pain in sessions, the things that bother him, but he got used to living with them, now how to eliminate them? He doesn’t want to hurt, to take sole responsibility, to commit to it for a long time and face his demons. But everything comes at a price.
Finally, are there signs that I need a therapist? – Should I follow them?
The answer to both questions is “yes”! The signs are there to remind us that we are not invulnerable and that our psyche matters more than anything else. We should not sweep every problem under the rug and we should not risk time passing without receiving optimal treatment. We cannot keep ignoring them, they will eventually come knocking at our door. Change is difficult and painful. But it comes to redeem and move us forward.
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